For those of you interested in emulating the personal habits of celebrities (which we typically don’t advise), this may be one of the few occasions where it should be permitted.

E! News reports that Britney Spears and her ex-husband Kevin Federline are using mediation to develop a working custody agreement:

Kevin Federline wants Britney Spears to once again play a major role in their children’s lives. Just not a bigger role than his.

K-Fed’s attorney, Mark Vincent Kaplan, spoke exclusively to E! News in the wake of Thursday’s all-day mediation session, in which both sides were seeking to hash out a custody agreement in advance of an August trial.

“Kevin is seeking to maintain the sole legal and physical custody that he presently has,” Kaplan said. “There’s nothing magical about 50-50. There’s nothing magical about 60-40. What’s magical is that whatever order is in place, it’s the order that best suits the best interest of the children.”

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With Easter days away and the summer break just down the road, it is time to think about your kids and their holiday schedules. If you are just recently divorced, and have not had a big holiday to test your custody agreement, it can be helpful to prepare yourself both physically and emotionally for the upcoming event.

If you are the parent sending the child off, preparing physically includes packing bags and making sure they have their figurative security blanket, e.g. a favorite toy, a stuffed animal, or their iPod. Preparation does not include giving them notes, bills, or paperwork to pass on to your ex-spouse. Turning your child into the messenger can put them in an awkward situation and make them the target for any frustration stemming from those documents.

If you are the receiving parent, make your home welcoming. Try to have one of your child’s favorite foods in the refrigerator and make their sleeping arrangement as comfortable as possible. While it may be tempting to probe your children about your ex-spouses personal life, they are not spies-in-training and should never be used as such.

Preparing emotionally is important as well. Try and stay busy while your child is away. If you dwell too much on missing them, you could end up in a lasting funk. Consider meeting up with friends or other family. Also, avoid laying a guilt trip on your child for wanting to see their other parent. A guilt trip may yield the result you want in the short term (getting your child to stay), but the long-term effects could be much worse (resentment, anger, issues with you ex-spouse).

Again, as the receiving parent, it is also important to manage your emotions. Don’t expect your children it instantly feel comfortable. It may take a little time for them to adjust. Additionally, be prepared for your child to feel a little homesick for their “main” home. Try not to take it too personally and encourage them to share their concerns.

If you find that, even after preparation and a couple of tries, your custody agreement still doesn’t seem to be the best fit for your kids, you may want to consider revising the agreement via mediation. In custody mediation, you and your ex will get together to openly discuss the kinks and problems in your agreement and modify it accordingly.