In the aftermath of divorce, holiday seasons pose unique challenges, but for couples opting for a collaborative and amicable divorce through mediation or the collaborative divorce process, celebrating the holidays together becomes a possible consideration.

Here are some practical thoughts to shed light on why this choice can be acceptable and advantageous for divorced couples. But remember that this decision must be made between you and your ex only.

Collaborative Divorce vs. Court-Litigated Divorce

• Collaborative divorce prioritizes cooperation, fostering a more amicable process.
• Court-litigated divorces where decisions are imposed, collaborative divorce empowers couples to shape mutually agreeable solutions actively.
• Opting for mediation lays the groundwork for ongoing cooperation, making shared holiday experiences a realistic prospect.

The Advantages of Joint Holiday Celebrations

• For couples with children, shared holidays can offer emotional stability. Collaborative divorce, emphasizing co-parenting, turns joint celebrations into positive childhood experiences.

• Rather than avoiding holidays altogether, collaborative divorce encourages couples to create fresh traditions post-divorce. Celebrating together can be a step towards embracing these new routines.

• Joint holiday celebrations, when comfortable, aid emotional closure and contribute to healthier co-parenting relationships.

Establishing Guidelines for Shared Holidays

• Discuss comfort levels and set clear guidelines for the holiday gathering to prevent misunderstandings.

• While joint celebrations might not suit everyone, maintaining a positive and cooperative mindset can make shared festivities or civil interactions more manageable.

• Collaborative divorce instills respect for differing perspectives. If joint holidays aren’t feasible, ensure both parties have the space to craft their individual, meaningful celebrations.

Although shared celebrations may not suit every situation, the focus on amicable resolutions in collaborative divorce lays the groundwork for positive post-divorce relationships, benefiting both the couple and their children.

At Peace Talks, our divorce mediators work with both of you to explore options, get the information you need to make the right decisions and reach your agreements.

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Note: This information is general and should not be construed as legal/financial/tax advice. You should work with your attorney, financial, mental health or tax professional to determine what will work best for your situation.