What is Parental Alienation?

Little girl hugging her mom.Couples can go back and forth arguing and blaming each other for their marriage falling apart.

When there are children involved, couples can take it to the next level by using their children as living chess pawns, moving them into a strategy that will work for one parent’s divorce plan and not the other’s. This is often called Parental Alienation.

We commonly see extreme alienation play out in litigated court divorces, where the goal is to pit the parents against each other, and the result is never win-win.

The term “Parental Alienation” is relatively new, but the act of alienating is not. Here are some signs to look for:

  • The children do not have one positive memory of you
  • Your child cannot seem to get emotionally close to you as they once did before the marital issues, and there is no evidence of abuse, neglect or poor parenting
  • Your spouse is drastically limiting contact with your child, virtually or in-person
  • The other parent is withholding their love of the child if they love you instead
  • They are telling your child that you do not love them or want to be around them
  • Your ex is forcing the child to reject you or stop contacting you

Parental alienation does not often occur when you use the collaborative or mediation process because the main goal is to bring both of you to an amicable emotional place.  The goal is to have respectful conversations and work towards a co-parenting plan that keeps your children’s best interest in mind.

At Peace Talks, our custody mediation and parenting plan mediation services assist divorced, divorcing, and never-married parents in working together to develop a child-centered custody plan and improve your ability to co-parent.

Contact us today to see how we can help both you and your spouse divorce in a way the keeps your family unit intact.

Note: This information is general in nature and should not be construed as legal/financial/tax/or mental health advice. You should work with your attorney, financial, mental health or tax professional to determine what will work best for your situation.

How To Manage Your Finances When Going Through a Divorce

When you find yourself getting a divorce, your whole world can feel like it is spinning out of control emotionally and financially.

And more often than not, the financial aspect of marital separation can quickly turn into a nightmare.

But, when you work with a neutral financial mediator, they can help you and your spouse determine the best path forward that is agreeable to both of you without going through a costly litigated court divorce.

When we meet with our clients for the first time, clients often ask us how they can best manage their finances as they progress through the divorce process. So, here are a few insights we share with them:

  • Determine all income streams, both shared and individual
  • Account for all debts and reoccurring expenses
  • Calculate your retirement income opportunities
  • Steer clear of family and friends for financial advice
  • Before starting or speaking about getting divorced, prepare all financial documents
  • Find ways to reduce your spending while you are working through your marital dissolution
  • Delay large purchases until all agreements have been finalized
  • Begin to track all income and expenses every month; it will help when dividing debts and assets – make sure to include everything

When we can articulate financial needs, concerns, and objectives, we can help our clients identify accurate values for their assets, debts, income streams and expenses.

Divorce is a time of change and emotional struggle. At Peace Talks, our team of experts strives to help individuals and couples face complex financial challenges objectively, examine various scenarios thoroughly, and reach agreements that consider the best interests of the entire family.

Whether you are getting divorced, planning your estate or negotiating a premarital agreement, our team of experienced, skilled divorce mediators and family law mediators will create practical solutions to difficult financial situations.

Contact us today to see how we can help you manage your finances effectively during your divorce process.

Note: This information is general in nature and should not be construed as legal/financial/tax advice. You should work with your attorney, financial, or tax professional to determine what will work best for your situation.