Modifying Custody Agreement

Getting a divorce is never a simple, once and done deal, even though our clients sometimes wish it would be that way.

Life changes in the blink of an eye, and with that blink, comes changes that may not have been expected when your divorce was agreed upon.  Therefore, divorce agreements often need to be modified to reflect those changes and better serve the best interest of your child(ren).

It’s not uncommon for divorced couples who are co-parenting children to go back and modify their custody agreement, and possibly their child support payments.

There are many reasons why this may need to take place:

  • Job location
  • Lack of co-parenting at the level agreed upon
  • Medical needs (parents or child)
  • Financial hardship
  • Change in income
  • The child desires more time with each parent
  • Change in child’s expense needs
  • Change in living condition or location of parent’s home
  • Death of a parent

Each state has its own guidelines on what precedents could warrant a change, so it’s important to check what applies in your state.

Keep in mind, to succeed in making custody changes, there must be a very significant reason in which to do so. It can’t be because your co-parenting plan is no longer working as you would like it to be.

You will also want to understand how monthly financial child support payments and tax responsibilities will change in the future.

Modifying your custody agreement using the collaborative divorce process can help your family work through the changes in a non-adversarial, litigated manner with the assistance of family mediators.

Our team of experts can help you and your spouse develop a modified custody plan that is agreeable to both parents.

At Peace Talks Mediation Services, our custody mediation and parenting plan mediation services assist divorced, divorcing, and never-married parents in working together to develop a child-centered custody plan and improve your ability to co-parent.

Contact us today for a FREE CONSULT to see how we can help you and your ex work by modifying your custody agreement to meet everyone’s needs.

Note: This information is general in nature and should not be construed as legal/financial/tax advice. You should work with your attorney, financial, or tax professional to determine what will work best for your situation.

Can the Coronavirus Affect Child Custody?

Can the Coronavirus Affect Child Custody - Peace Talks Mediation Services - Coronavirus, COVID19, child custody, divorce, divorce mediation - Photo by Gustavo Fring from PexelsWhile we battle the COVID-19 virus, even though it seems the world has stopped, there are still many other high stressors at play, such as families who are trying to balance out custody concerns.

Many states have a stay-at-home order, and because of safety issues of contracting the virus, parental custody arrangements may need to temporally change due to the social distancing during the pandemic.

We are in unchartered waters – no precedents have been written or ruled on as to how to handle custody during a pandemic.

When the world starts turning again, we believe a pandemic modification will be added to post divorce agreements.

So, here are a few suggestions to help you and your ex handle visitation issues:

  • Be flexible and make common sense decisions that are realistic and agreeable for both of you
  • Work together to find a solution that keeps the child’s best interest in mind
  • Don’t use the outbreak as a weapon to withhold visitation agreements
  • Refrain from airing out your concerns about custody in front of your children
  • Realize everyone has been affected by COVID-19 – stress levels are pushed to their max
  • If you cannot agree on custody during this uncertain time, reach out to a custody mediator to help

During these turbulent times, custody is a gray area, and there is a steep learning curve for everyone. If you are struggling to find common ground, reach out to a conflict resolution expert for help. Our mediators are experts at working through conflict resolution to help each party find an agreeable alternative to co-parenting issues.

At Peace Talks Mediation Services, our custody mediation and parenting plan mediation services assist divorced, divorcing, and never-married parents in working together to develop a child-centered custody plan and improve your ability to co-parent.

Contact us today for a FREE CONSULTATION to learn how our mediators can help you with your custody and co-parenting issues.

Note: This information is general in nature and should not be construed as legal/financial/tax advice. You should work with your attorney, financial, or tax professional to determine what will work best for your situation.

Every Judge Is Not A Solomon

by Stephanie Maloney

Every Judge Is Not A Solomon Copyright: <a href="https://www.123rf.com/profile_stockbroker">stockbroker / 123RF Stock Photo</a>There’s a lawsuit filed by the ACLU aimed at preventing families seeking asylum from being separated at the border. It’s a cruel tactic implemented to discourage refugees from coming to America and if you disagree with this decision there is a petition you can sign on their website to stop this practice.

Split Custody, as it is referred to in divorces with children, is very rare in general because of the potential harm but percentage of responsibility comes up in many court-driven divorces. When the judge decides how the financial responsibilities should be divided it is not necessarily done by “cutting them in half”. That court decision can have some seriously negative repercussions for at least one parent and ultimately for the children.

Maintaining control of the settlement process is one of the main reasons for utilizing a mediator and working towards a mutual agreement, rather than leaving it up to the court. You may not be risking custody but you might encounter what you consider to be a slightly “one-sided agreement” and end up in a financial bind. Let’s remember that the judge may also come up with visitation schedules that present logistical nightmares for vacation time and holidays. “Who gets the kids for Christmas?” is a question that you will want to decide when necessary not a third-party adjudicator.

I do encourage you to make your voice heard, if you are so inclined, to stop tearing families apart when they’ve come so far by staying together.