Starting a New Year After Divorce

Starting a New Year After Divorce - Peace Talks Mediation Services - divorce, new year, divorce mediation, co-parenting - Photo by Ken GasconAs 2019 wound down, and your divorce was finalized, you may find yourself asking many questions, some of which may be:

  • How can I make the most of 2020 as a new divorcee?
  • How do I grow my relationship with my children?
  • What is the best way to continue growing my communications with my ex?
  • My divorce was difficult, and I am not sure I can find a new me, what can I do?

These are all very reasonable questions for a recent divorcee to be asking of one’s self.

Here are some things we suggest you do early on in the New Year to help you start 2020 off on the right foot:

  • Look at your new financial landscape
    • What adjustments need to be made asap?
    • What financial goals do you have for 2020?
  • Continue to work with your ex on how you communicate
    • During the collaborative divorce process both of you learned how to communicate with each other more effectively – put those newly found skills to work today
  • Develop your relationship with your children
  • Work on being your best you
    • Exercise daily
    • Eat healthy
    • Find ways to reduce your stress level

When you commit to working on your relationships with your ex, your children, and taking better care of yourself, 2020 can end up being the best year yet for you!

At Peace Talks, our co-mediation teams of attorneys, financial specialists and therapists can help you move forward in 2020 after your divorce has been finalized.

Our divorce mediators work with you to explore options, get the information you need to make good decisions, and assist both of you in reaching an agreement, while keeping both parties in control over their future.

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Get started with our Quick Start FAQ or contact us today to speak with us or to schedule a free mediation orientation (310) 301-2100.

Note: This information is general in nature and should not be construed as legal/financial/tax advice. You should work with your attorney, financial, or tax professional to determine what will work best for your situation.

“Free-Range” Parenting

by Stephanie Maloney

“Free-Range” Parenting - Divorce Mediation - Sherman Oaks, CAIt seems that childcare and its “do’s and “don’ts” keeps coming up as one of the most emotional issues dividing couples that are co-parenting even with only one child in the mix.

I came across an article from the “First 5 California”* website that has some valuable viewpoints about this incredibly difficult and rather constant problem for a lot of divorced parents. *(First 5 California was created in November 1998 when California voters passed Proposition 10 to invest tobacco tax revenues in programs that would help improve the lives of children in California.)

“Recent headlines have prompted the question over what situations a child is considered independent enough to walk home unattended, play outdoors without supervision or be left alone in the home?”

“Free-range” parenting has been highlighted and criticized in recent months, due in part to, a Maryland couple recently cleared of neglect charges in one of two cases after allowing their 10-year-old and 6-year-old children to walk home unsupervised from a local park. 

On the flip side, a father in Tennessee used a drone to keep tabs on his 8-year-old daughter as she walked home by herself.

So, what is considered lenientor overprotectivewhen it comes to raising our children is a question to be openly discussed on a regular basis as they develop.

“We should also allow children the freedom to explore by teaching them to speak up(ensure your child can contact you or an adult at all times) and speak out -with respect and not defiance.”

This question about how much to be involved in parenting can often be a challenge when trying to co-parent. Parents can differ in their parenting style and want to impose it on the co-parent. Our advice is to balance the fight with what you are fighting for.

You can view the whole piece on their website: www.first5la.org/