Ilene Stallman

Ilene Stallman - Attorney Mediator



“Through my experience as a litigator, I understand the emotional and financial consequences of divorce and custody issues. I’m a strong advocate of the collaborative mediation process. Working with a team of skilled and caring professionals, affords our clients a more peaceful and constructive experience during a challenging time.”

Ilene Stallman is a Family Law Attorney and a Certified Family Law Mediator. Her role is to provide our clients with the resources and education to understand their issues, and the law related to their case, and to empower them to reach a resolution that works for them.

As an Attorney Mediator, she serves as a neutral mediator, while guiding our clients to control their outcome in a confidential setting. Her goal is always to help create a tailor-made resolution that meets their needs. Currently she works with clients in both our San Luis Obispo and Los Angeles offices.


Ilene grew up in New York, and studied and worked in New York City. She landed her first legal job with a small NYC family law firm and immediately decided it was the right fit. After relocating to California, she continued a part-time family law practice and quickly realized that mediation would be a more rewarding alternative to litigation. In 2011, she became certified as a family law mediator.

Applying her family law expertise and knowledge of the court process, she guides her clients through the process with confidence and patience. Ilene believes that mediating collaboratively with an attorney and family counselor facilitates a party’s negotiations with more control, efficiency, and expediency.

What’s most important to her is encouraging understanding and communication among her clients while promoting the best interests of the children. She works to reduce the economic and emotional costs generally associated with the resolution of family law matters.


  • Forrest Mosten Mediator and Collaborative Family Mediation Training, 2011
  • New York Law School, Juris Doctor, 1988-1991
  • New York University, Bachelor of Arts, 1984-1988


After growing up in New York, Ilene relocated to the central coast of California in 2000. There she resumed her family law practice while raising her three kids and enjoying the California sunshine. In her spare time, she enjoys tennis, hiking, and travel.