Is Divorce Failure?
Family Mediation and Failure
Many clients have told me that they viewed getting divorced as a their greatest failure as an adult. Even their body language told me they weren’t so proud to be in my office speaking with me about it.
When you do take that oath and enter into those sacred bonds of marriage, you believe it will last forever. You never plan on getting divorced; it’s dictated by circumstances that feel out of your control. However, you can take that control back in determining how to handle divorce when it happens to you.
Of course, there’s always the famous “going out in a blaze” approach, which may or may not include intense gossiping, rounds of “he-said she-said” and creating a bonfire out of your spouses belongings (not an unpopular route from my experience).
Fortunately for the rest of us, there is a way that allows you to part in a respectful way that is fair to both parties, and doesn’t drudge up any unecessary drama. It’s called Family Mediation. It’s truly divorce made easy. Or at least easier. Signing up for Family Mediation services is a way to avoid expensive trips to your swanky Los Angeles divorce lawyer.
Even if you feel you have failed as a partner in a marriage, it is still your call whether to fail at being a responsible adult. Divorce is tricky, so you want to come out of it feeling good about yourself and your history together. If you care about your relationship, give Mediation Services a shot, it could give you results that you’re looking for.
A spoiled relationship is one of those things that we just can’t control, at least not once it’s happened and it’s beyond repair. It could start with a small incident and gradually build up to a separation. It happens all the time. To call that a failure would be an injustice. What you can control is how you react to it. Working things out peacefully through Family Mediation is a way to help eliminate the burden of a drawn out divorce and still keep on good terms with your spouse.
Even the best of us get unlucky. My mother, the most kind and gentle person I ever knew, succumbed to cancer in 2010. My friend from here in Los Angeles, adopted a drug-addicted boy who is now stricken with a life threatening illness. The world is full of happenings beyond our control.
Somebody once said, “it’s not success that makes us great, but how we deal with failure.” If divorce comes your way, you can greet it with strife and aggression or you can welcome it in and deal with it in a calm way that ensures you will get through it without unnecessary fallout.
Ask yourself these questions: